Combatting Loneliness

Loneliness is a common feeling and something that we’re all likely to feel from time to time. Feelings of loneliness are very personal and everyone’s experience of feeling lonely will be different.  

Loneliness is described as a feeling that we get when we do not meet our needs for rewarding social contact and relationships. However, being alone and being lonely are not the same thing. We may choose to spend time alone and live happily without much contact with others, while for others this may be a lonely experience. 

It may also be the case that you have lots of social contact, be in a relationship and have family and friends around you, and still feel lonely. 

Causes of loneliness 

There are many different causes of loneliness, but some of the most common causes include major life events such as: 

• Experiencing a bereavement 
• Going through a divorce or relationship break-up 
• Moving to a new area away from friends and family 
• Retiring and losing the regular social contact you experienced at work
  

Who is susceptible to loneliness? 

Anyone can suffer from loneliness at various points in their life. Whilst loneliness is often seen as something experienced by the older generation, research suggests that those living in certain circumstances, or belonging to particular groups, might be most vulnerable to loneliness. For example, if you: 

• have no friends or family 
• are not in contact with your family 
• have caring responsibilities or are a single parent 
• belong to a minority group and live in a community without others from a similar background 
• experience discrimination and stigma because of your gender, race or sexual orientation, or because of a disability or long-term health problem

What is the impact on health and wellbeing? 

Long-term loneliness is associated with an increased risk of certain mental health problems, including depression, anxiety and increased stress. This has also been associated with health impacts that are equivalent to smoking 15 cigarettes a day. 

If you are feeling lonely... 

• Try calling or seeing a friend, family member, health professional or counsellor to talk about your feelings.   
• Join a group or class that focuses on something you enjoy – that could be anything from an exercise class or group to a cookery class or book club.   
• Consider visiting places where you can be around other people - for example, a park, the cinema or a café. 
• Contact the Samaritans, call: 116 123 or email: jo@samaritans.org if you need someone to talk to.  
• Visit the NHS or Mind website for further support and information. 

Benefits of 'Staying Connected'

Having a network of good relationships improves your wellbeing and can keep your mind active. Staying connected with others and taking part in social activities can also increase your confidence and improve how you feel about yourself. It’s normal to find yourself alone at some points and being alone doesn’t always mean you’ll feel lonely. But not getting the quality or amount of social contact you want can lead to feelings of loneliness. This can affect your physical and mental health.

Tips to staying connected

• Join social groups or get involved with social activities;
• Do something you know you enjoy;
• Learn something new;
• Volunteer in the community.